BLOG #1 Topic: Relationship and Social Media
Subtopic: The difference between capturing the moment vs. creating memories of quality time. Don't let social media ruin your relationship!
Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their hard work. For if they fall, one will lift up the other. But pity to one who is alone when he/she falls and has not another to lift him/her up! Again, if two lie together in marriage, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone?
RELATIONSHIP AND DATING
A relationship is the way in which two people are connected and behaves towards each other. Relationships require lots of understanding in reference to both parties:
likes & dislikes,
The topics listed in the previously are topics of discussion when getting to know someone of interest. Whether both are of the same beliefs or different beliefs, it is imperative that you know how to set and respect boundaries as two individual entities and together.
Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others. Dating is a method used to express one's feelings an emotions as it relates to different stages of like or love.
The key to a successful relationship is communication. Communication is the means of exercising a connection between two people; the transmission or exchange of words, information, or news. Dialogues between two individuals should be approached with an open mind. Discussions are not only used as a method to resolve issues as portrayed in today's society, but it is rather used as the most effective method in getting to know a person deeper. Communication creates a common ground for two people whether in a relationship, friendship, or community environment to understand and settle differences. It is never recommended that you approach a conversation or dialogue while you are emotionally distressed as this could result in more misunderstandings or miscommunication.
HOW SOCIAL MEDIA HAVE CHANGED THE DYNAMIC IN RELATIONSHIPS AND COMMUNICATION
We live in modern times and technology is ever-growing; also ever-changing. It is said that technology have enhanced the ways we communicate, which on the contrary have diminished our effective communication skills as well as harm our relationships and it's values. Prior to the constant development of technology, we approached conversation with morals. Today, we hardly dialogue face to face and prefers to text, email, direct message, instant message, post, or even tweet about matters that can be easily understood and resolved by conducting a respectful conversation. There is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying technology, but we cannot forget the necessary journey and effective methods used before these modern-day luxuries.
Too often we see relationships on social media and they appear great looking through the lens of a camera, but in most cases things are not always as they seems. Have we ever paused to think about what that individual, couple, or group did to get where they are? Have we ever thought about what boundaries and goals were set to achieve their level of success? NEVER compare yourself or your relationship to that of others. Embrace your growth track and the journey along the way. In most cases, the images that we view are only a façade.
Façade: an outward appearance that is maintained to conceal a less pleasant or creditable reality.
There are no faults with setting goals or having a plan for where you would like to be in the future, but always ensure your goals are set not based on the life of others. Goals should be set logically. All relationship are unique and moves at different paces.
Capturing the moment vs. Creating Memories
(Living for social Media)
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I am a strong believer that the best relationships are usually those that are not constantly broadcasted on social media. Some people enter relationships for the wrong reasons. While some may enter for the hype of social media, others enter for the opportunity to build a foundational future. A relationship is an investment. If you invest the right values, you will yield the results of a fruitful relationship and marriage. If you neglect your relationship, you risk the chance of losing something and someone of substance. There has to be a balance in a relationship even if social media is a part. Be open and honest with your spouse about social media posts and messages. When there are differences, talk about your challenges. Do not post personal conversations or subliminal posts expecting a positive outcome. By doing so you invite a social world of negativity to take precedence over effective communication. Create memories by indulging in intimate conversations and events. A photo would capture the moment that is worth 1,000 words, but creating memories that would last a lifetime tells the story.
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